As counsellors, we use an attachment and trauma-informed lens. We believe trauma is not just the "Big T" traumas such as an assault or a car accident, but "little t" traumas such as your friend moving away, your high school teacher telling you that you will never measure up, your mother not paying attention to you, or your class laughing at you during a presentation. Trauma is anything that is negative and unexpected which makes you feel overwhelmed, confused, and powerless - which resulted in lasting negative impacts and is often the reason behind our symptoms.